Can a Divorce be a success? Well I would like to raise that question with particular mention of my own. Unfortunately I have been through a divorce… If you are facing this awful and daunting process you may be comforted to know that not all divorces are bitter and fraught… “It’s what you make it!”

When I got married I had been with my wife for over 3.5 years, I was absolutely sure that she was the one for me and I was very happy – we both were, the wedding and then the first year of marriage was a very good one, however; a year in and the cracks appeared.. It seemed that we just weren’t happy together anymore, as is often the case when you REALLY get to know someone!

The good thing about this realisation was that it was a mutual realisation and there was very little argument or decision to make. It seemed that we both felt we had given it our all! So seeing that we had made the decision that it was time to bring the relatively short marriage to a close we discussed the logistics and practicalities of separating…

Don’t get me wrong it was terribly upsetting and it disrupted both of our lives in a very big way; emotionally, financially and morally. One saving grace of our marriage was that we didn’t have children so the only things to sort were finances and property…

I visited a solicitor and after initially dealing with them, I decided not to use them as they were extremely financially orientated and expected us to be bitter towards each other. However; we were just deeply upset and the solicitor in question really didn’t help matters. We had already talked the ass off of our relationship searching for ways to salvage something but it was no use. The stark realisation had set in!

I decided that I needed a good solicitor that fundamentally worked with compassion and care to help both me and my wife get through this ordeal with as little emotional damage as possible. The Solicitor I found was a member of the ‘Resolution‘ programme. This non profit affiliation ensures that the solicitors and legal advisors follow guidelines in order to minimise anguish, upset and emotional disruption. My solicitor really did do that and everything was quick easy and very acceptable under the circumstances.

I am sorry that I didn’t make my marriage work, I understand that there are things that are ‘just beyond our control’ now and we have to make the best of things! When all fighting is done, a marriage can’t survive on Love alone! I would recommend that if you are facing a similar prospect as I have been through or, in fact, any Family legalities, that you seek out a solicitor or legal advisor that is affiliated with ‘Resolution’. It really did help us, and I am sure that my Ex-wife will agree with me.

On a positive note; because of the sensitivity the divorce and clean-break order was handled, i am pleased to say we are still very good friends. And although entirely plutonic; something special survived!

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